In today’s blog post, Dr. Wiggins shares a comparison of life to a rowboat versus a motorboat as the key to moving ahead.
There is a Jewish proverb that says “Life is to be lived as a man (or woman) in a rowboat”. A motorboat has the motor behind you. You’re facing in the direction that you’re going; however, you’re moving at a fast pace, never taking the time for self-evaluation. At some point, you have to analyze where you’ve been and what you’ve learned from it.
With a rowboat, you have to face where you’ve already been while moving in the direction that you’re going. It’s time to learn the lessons from the hurt, pain, and disappointment in your past to use that as motivation for where God is taking you. Those lessons become fuel for the future.
Running from your past doesn’t make it go away. At some point, you need to deal with the pain of the past. Those valuable life lessons are the key to moving ahead…and a reminder of where you cannot afford to return.
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Today’s post is a character synopsis for Doris Mae Jenkins, the maternal figure in D. C. Wiggins’ upcoming novel, Almost Doesn’t Count.
Doris Mae Jenkins is a retired school teacher who worked for 38 years in Detroit Public Schools. She is a senior citizen who owns her home, and continues to live in Detroit, Michigan despite pleas from her son to relocate to a safer place. Doris is the central maternal caregiver in Almost Doesn’t Count. She mentored Lorenzo Carter from 4th grade through his senior year of high school when he was killed in a car accident. He never received his high school diploma.
Lorenzo, despite her warnings, had become a teen father. Doris was convinced after a conversation with God to “adopt” his newborn son, Zelman, so that he would not fall prey to the temptations of urban life. Doris is determined to have at least one young man in her life complete high school on time and graduate college. Doris’ relationship to Lorenzo, Zelman, and the neighborhood at large where she has spent the majority of her adult years make her vital to the story. She is intricately involved in all the other character’s lives.
Doris’ greatest fear is for Zelman to get caught up in the extracurricular activities witnessed daily while living in the inner city. Becoming a teen father, selling drugs, or gang violence are very real dangers for Zelman that she must prevent at all costs. Doris prays to be able to see him graduate, but understands that she may die with unresolved desires if she does not act quickly.
Doris has a personal struggle with her own biological children. She is very compassionate about helping Lorenzo, and then Zelman, but it is as if she is trying to compensate for not doing the best with her own sons. She feels shame and guilt in that her sons are not college graduates; it is a personal failure for her as an educator that she was unable to get her own children to see the value of a college education. Doris desires to repair her relationship with her remaining son, but does not want to reveal her inner turmoil, or appear vulnerable and weak. As such, her defense mechanism is not to let anyone past the brick wall she has erected to keep these issues suppressed.
In order to repair her relationship with her son, Doris must open up. For a woman in her 60s who was taught to be seen and not heard, it is a challenge. She has never had to verbalize her feelings, but she must in order to be a part of her grandchildren’s lives before it’s too late. Taking care of Zelman is a learning process for them both. He is a much different child from her sons, but her ultimate goal remains the same: help him graduate high school on time and earn a college degree.
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In today’s post, Dr. Dee shares a character synopsis on Zelman Carter, the central character around which the story line of “Almost Doesn’t Count” is built. Almost Doesn’t Count is the second book in the Overcomers Series by D. C. Wiggins.
Zelman Xavier Carter is the son of Lorenzo Carter, a former mentee/”adopted” son of Doris Jenkins. Zelman is introduced as an infant of teen parents following the death of his father. The reader follows Zelman from infancy through his young adult years. It is important to watch his social, emotional, academic, and financial acumen develop throughout his life denoting its impact on the ultimate goal: college graduation.
Zelman’s relationship to his guardian, “Grandma Doris”, is key. Doris is working through her own feelings of inadequacy as a parent while rearing Zelman. Zelman is Doris’ last chance to prove that she can be instrumental in the life and development of a young African-American man seeking a better life, in spite of their inner city struggles.
Zelman wants to fit in. He wants to be accepted by his peers and fails to understand why he continues to stand out. Not knowing his biological family does not keep Zelman from making similar poor choices. It makes him susceptible to repeat history. The longing to be accepted forces him into multiple brushes with the very things Doris is trying to protect him from.
Zelman must decide whether to follow the carefully laid out path that Grandma Doris explains will guarantee him a life away from the ills of the inner city or to follow his desire to be a part of the “in” crowd. Zelman doesn’t want to disappoint Grandma Doris, yet doesn’t want to miss out on the “fun” his peers are always talking about. He has to overcome the volume of the masses to determine what is at the core of his heart.
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In today’s post, Dr. De’Andrea Wiggins explores the spiritual and physical characteristics of being stuck in a rut.
As I drove down a residential street in the city of Detroit, I couldn’t help but notice the defined groove that had been carved out by the cars which had driven the same snowy route many times before. The icy path allowed drivers the opportunity to remain on the well-trodden road to avoid any unexpected occurrences that often plague the winter driving experience. The problem with traveling the same route as others is when it comes to making a turn. As I approached the street that I needed to turn, it was increasingly difficult to rise out of the rut that others had created in order to make the necessary adjustment to maneuver my vehicle in a different direction.
There has been record snowfall in the state of Michigan this winter, which in turn has built up layers upon layers of ice and snow. This creates deep grooves as cars maintain the status quo daring not to drive anywhere other than the path laid before them. I began to think on how easy it is to follow the path that others have laid out; diverging from that path can be treacherous, if not deadly. The same is true of our spiritual life. The path well-traveled may seem easiest; however, when you are called to move in a different direction, it can cause a spinout, collision with another, or being stuck with no one to rescue you.
The winter season is the time of preparation. It may appear cold and dreary, but beneath the surface, there are some seeds that are ready to spring forth. Do not get discouraged when you find that you are on a different path. The snow and ice will melt and fade away just like your distractions and those who would seek your fall. Keep moving ahead, spring is on its way!
“She called me sweetheart!”
That was the response of a little girl who attended one of our church’s outdoor events. I don’t even recall the type of event that the church was having, but I do remember this little girl’s response. She came to visit my table and when she was about to leave, my farewell included the word “sweetheart”. Her grandmother was walking up as she skipped happily away and exclaimed to her grandmother “She called me sweetheart!”
Why is this response so important to remember? It was the smallest, simplest gesture of affirmation that the young lady was not expecting, but lit up her world. Thinking back on the scenario, a few things stand out:
- The community where the church was serving is home to one of the poorest zip codes in the city.
- The little girl was being raised by her grandmother.
- People in impoverished situations hear criticism more than they hear affirmations. Many don’t know how to praise others because they rarely received it themselves, if ever.
As I look back, I am convicted. Too often, I have allowed myself to fall prey to the spirit of criticism. Perhaps it’s the bills outweighing the income. Perhaps it’s the stress of being a working parent with little energy left to complete the tasks of motherhood. Perhaps it’s not taking enough time to appreciate the great honor that I have been given to be able to parent five gifted children. Whatever the reason, today, I choose to affirm…again.
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As promised, my faithful blog followers are the first to get a sneak peek at “The Surrendered Soul: Aligning The Five Parts of Your Soul with the Will of God”. Now you’re probably thinking, “wait, five parts? I thought there were only three?”. Most people are familiar with three parts of the soul: your mind, your will and your emotions. In this book, I will establish that your memory, and your imagination are also a part of your soul.
Using the Bible as my primary source to understand my own struggles and find my way to a “healthier place”, I’ve decided to share my findings with the world in this book to be released later this year. So if you’ve ever:
- struggled with negative or “crazy” thoughts
- justified behavior that you knew was wrong
- built a fortress around your heart to keep from getting hurt
- repressed emotions that were difficult to deal with
- allowed your imagination, or what you thought to be true, to land you in a compromising position
…then this book is for you. Let me know that I’m not alone by commenting below, then share this post with your friends across social media. I can’t wait to hear from you.
For those of you who follow Dr. Dee’s blog, you’ve probably been wondering why there haven’t been any posts in a LONG time. This article lets you know what has been going on in her life and what you can expect next.
Have you ever experienced a season where one thing after another seemed to invite catastrophe into your life? The four F’s sometimes come at different times, but then at others, they come in rapid succession. I have been experiencing one of those seasons where the four F’s were attacked in rapid succession.
Over the past few months, my family has experienced the deaths of two patriarchs in our family. In addition, my health seemed to have been on a rapid decline – from a lumpectomy in March, to arthritis in my knees and subsequent physical therapy, to a bacterial infection that mimicked the flu and literally had me on my back for weeks. At the same time, my finances were in a state of flux, but in spite of it all, I never lost my faith. My faith in God helped me to cry out for healing when my body refused to cooperate. My faith kept me when grief was my constant bedfellow. My faith is what has allowed me to experience joy in the first few days of this new year and to maintain hope that I am about to enter the best season of my life.
For those of you who have experienced a similar situation, don’t give up hope. Hold on to that glimmer of faith that lets you know you have purpose to fulfill. As an educator and author, I know that a part of my purpose is to edify or build up others. I cannot effectively build up others until I have been built up myself. This process has renewed my vigor to study and share via published books information that will help you to grow spiritually and excel professionally.
Thank you for continuing to follow my blog, in spite of the infrequent posts. You can expect to hear from me more often this year, starting in two weeks with a sneak peak at the non-fiction book that I’m currently working on. I’d love to hear about your experiences, so please comment below.
One of the first scriptures that my children learned was John 1:1 “In the beginning, there was the Word. The Word was with God, and the Word was God.” This short scripture lets you know that the Word has always existed, as it was with God in the beginning. God breathed the breath of life into mankind, thus giving you the capacity to think and create with your words.
Before any speech comes out of your mouth, it begins with a thought. Your thoughts are like words on a ticker tape going across your mind, but where does it come from? Your thoughts are influenced by a number of factors, but primarily by what you allow to enter. Things enter and become thoughts based on what you hear (as it enters your eargates), and what you see (as it enters your eyegates).
If you don’t like the thought patterns that you are having, then it’s time for a self-assessment. What have you been watching? How has it influenced or manifested itself in your thought life, dreams, or elsewhere? What have you been listening to? How has that influenced your thoughts, dreams, and actions?
A familiar quote says it best, which I will share here:
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become your character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
You determine your character. Your character has a direct impact on your destiny. Protect your eargates and your eyegates; in doing so, you protect your thoughts.
If you reflect on the story of Job, he was an upright man of complete integrity who feared God and stayed away from evil. When Satan was given access to Job, he attacked not only his possessions, but those caring for the possessions, and his children. Satan attacked everything that was connected to Job, but he was never after the things he attacked.
Satan attacks four primary areas known as the Four F’s.
Satan is always after number one on the list, FAITH. The “stuff” only weakens or strengthens your faith based on your response. The enemy came against Job’s faith by attacking his finances (livestock, possessions), then his family (children and wife/helpmeet). With both finances and family out of the way, Job’s future was in jeopardy. The enemy even used Job’s wife to call his future into question.
Whenever you experience distress in more than one of the areas listed above, it is called an unparalleled attack. Know that the attacks will come; however, you can prepare in this season for what is to come through consistent prayer, getting to know God better by reading His Word, and by being accountable to another. Your accountability or prayer partner can cover you before, during and after an attack of the enemy.
“Look, I am sending you out as sheep among wolves. So be as shrewd as snakes and harmless as doves.” Matthew 10:16 NLT